Are You ready for Modern Courtship Action
True Love Singles calls itself a modern courtship site. Someone asked us the other day what the difference is between a courtship site and a dating site, or between courtship and dating. What is modern courtship action?
The difference between modern courtship and modern dating might be largely semantic, or relating to meaning in language or logic. In the overall scheme of definitions and Google searches, True Love Singles is a dating site. But it is not meant to be a “hook-up” dating site, it is not meant to be a “matching” dating site, it is meant to be a “courtship” dating site. Need an example of a hook-up dating site? Just go to AshleyMadison.com. Need an example of a matching dating site? Just go to eHarmony.com.
Dating Sites Over-state their Effectiveness
However, many typical dating sites focus their services on giving you with access to their pool of Singles, offer you a free personality test, provide you with dubious matches based on secret computer algorithms, and make you pay for messaging. Courtship action is not emphasized. These dating sites have no real incentives to work for your success. If they would, they’d lose you sooner than later and forgo substantial revenue.
Their untested matching algorithms cannot match you with someone you really like because coming to like someone requires off-site, face-to-face meetings. Their untested matching algorithms may actually exclude great Singles, people you now never meet. In the end, “matching” dating sites create unreasonable expectations by simply over-stating their effectiveness.
Caitlin Dewey, digital culture critic at the Washington Post, exclaims in her The Intersect blog from November 11, 2015 that “Dating site algorithms are meaningless. They really don’t do anything. In fact, the research suggests that so-called “matching algorithms” are only negligibly better at matching people than random chance.” Now, are matching dating sites entertaining? Sure. Swipe left, swipe right – what else can you do on a train ride to or from work?
On the other hand, dating sites – like True Love Singles – afford you opportunities to reach out to many others or be discovered, they provide you with additional venues to get to know others. This is especially important to Gen X and Baby Boomers who do not dwell anymore in a highly charged campus environment and are otherwise less connected.
Modern Courtship Action
Courtship, as True Love Singles promotes it, allows for the two people to truly get to know each other in a more platonic setting without the pressures of physical intimacy or emotions clouding their view. Courtship is understood as the period in a couple’s relationship which precedes their engagement and marriage. The goal of courting is to find out if one is compatible with the other person in terms of personality, liking, expectations and goals for the future. Near the end of courtship, Singles will decide if there is to be an engagement or other such agreement.
Courtship action entails at least that you:
- made efforts to understand yourself,
- search or be discovered to have at least someone in mind,
- communicate expectations and goals for the relationship,
- will spent face-to-face time with the other Single.
No big news here, we know. But True Love Singles wants to tell you that you should expect to spent face-to-face time with the other Single before making up your mind if he or she could possibly be Mr. Right or Ms. Perfect. Looking at pictures and reading profiles goes only so far and should be thought of as a means to exclude the most undesirable prospective Singles, rather than to include the few that one comes across online.
To the point of understanding oneself, True Love Singles offers its guests and users a great, free personality assessment. The test is adapted from Traitify, a new company with an innovative approach to assessing one’s persona. To the point of having someone in mind, True Love Singles offers a directory of promising Singles to search for Mr. Right or Ms. Perfect.
To the point of communicating expectations and goals for the relationship, True Love Singles offers each user an extensive profile to start sharing something essential of him or herself. To the point of spending face-to-face time with a promising Single, True Love Singles will soon offer additional meetups in selective cities.
However, at some point during courtship action, the site needs to be commended for its good work but otherwise left to its own devices. There is a time for the courtship action to move offline for the two Singles to possibly meet more relatives and friends and eventually settle down somewhere (perhaps here) in a life-long relationship.